February is the month of love, and as Valentine’s Day approaches, it’s a wonderful time to reflect on the various types of love that enrich our lives. When we think of love, most of us immediately conjure images of romantic love. However, renowned author CS Lewis invites us to explore a more nuanced perspective through his book, “The Four Loves.” In this blog post, we’ll delve into these four types of love and examine how they can enrich our mental health and our understanding of love during this season of celebration.
Eros Love: CS Lewis identifies Eros love as the romantic kind. It’s the passionate connection we feel with our partners that encompasses emotional, relational, and physical intimacy. If you’re in a romantic relationship, you likely experience this deep connection on many levels. Eros love reminds us of the beauty of sharing our lives with that special someone.
Philia Love: The second type of love in CS Lewis’ framework is Philia love, which corresponds to friendship. These are the people we cherish as friends, and they, in turn, cherish us. Take a moment to think about your friends who bring love, care, and support into your life. Friendships built on Philia love are a precious gift, reminding us of the importance of platonic connections.
Agape Love: Agape love is the third type, characterized by its sacrificial and unconditional nature. It’s the kind of love that transcends personal gain and seeks the well-being of others. When we love with Agape, we offer our love selflessly, without expecting anything in return. It’s a powerful reminder that love is not just about receiving; it’s also about giving.
Storge Love: The fourth and final love in CS Lewis’ exploration is Storge love, representing affection. This is often seen in the tender bonds between a mother and her child. Storge love reminds us of the warmth and comfort that familial connections can bring into our lives.
CS Lewis’s work on these types of love encourages us to expand our understanding of love beyond the romantic realm. It invites us to reflect on our own definitions of love and the reasons we love the people in our lives.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, regardless of your relationship status, take time to celebrate the love that surrounds you. Whether it’s romantic, platonic, familial, or self-love, each form of love contributes to our mental and emotional well-being. Reflect on the four loves as described by CS Lewis, and allow this exploration to deepen your appreciation for the diverse and beautiful ways love manifests in your life.
Becoming Anchored in Hope,
Laura
AFFIRMATION OF THE DAY: “I embrace the diversity of love in my life, knowing that each type of love enriches my emotional well-being.”
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